Sometimes life puts us to the test and situations arise that can be very complicated. We have the option to let ourselves be carried away by circumstances, but we can also bet on resilience, overcome and emerge stronger.
Resilience is the human capacity to assume limit situations with flexibility and overcome them, emerging stronger. Resilient people use every situation they encounter in life to grow and develop to their full potential.
Resilience does not mean downplaying the importance of negative moments, but rather giving them the importance they deserve, being flexible and restructuring one’s psychological resources according to the new circumstances that arise and the new needs that arise.
CHARACTERISTICS OF A RESILIENT PERSON
- They are people with great self-confidence.
- Great capacity to face different situations.
- They have a network of social support.
- They have purpose in their lives.
- They firmly believe that they can influence what happens around them.
- They know they can learn from all of life’s experiences.
- They face life in the most positive, enthusiastic and energetic way possible.
- They are curious and open-minded to new experiences.
- They have a very high positive emotionality.
HOW TO BE MORE RESILIENT
The fact of creating a positive change from the experience we have just lived, helps us to be better than before this event. These changes can be at a personal level (individual), in relation to other people (interpersonal) or at a life philosophy level.
Self-change: to have more confidence in ourselves and in how we will face future adversities, getting our lives back on track.
Relationships with other people: a traumatic event can unite us with other people who have gone through the same or a similar event and with those who have supported us during the process.
About the philosophy of life: when you live a difficult experience that marks you, you change your way of seeing the world, the values you had and the appreciation you had for certain things.
This does not mean that we do not live negative experiences, in fact, if we did not live them, this personal growth would not occur. It is about coexisting with pain and learning from it.
We will not grow in all aspects of our life, but we will improve certain areas of it. Each experience will improve one or several aspects (even some that we thought we had already improved), so little by little we will change the way we live and behave.
HOW TO DEVELOP RESILIENCE
Relating to people:
In difficult moments, we must allow ourselves to be helped and supported, in this way we will strengthen the bond with our family and friends, even with people who at first we thought were not so important to us. Helping those in need will also facilitate bonding and improve our resilience little by little.
Do not see what happens to us as an obstacle:
We cannot prevent negative things from happening to us, but we can decide how we interpret them, how we react to them and how they affect us. We must be positive, think that everything will pass and that there is hope.
We must do activities that improve our mood:
Do things that lift your spirits, whether it is doing sports, going for a walk, being with your friends or family, going to the movies, reading… Do it often and you will see how you feel good.
When something negative happens to you, you should look for solutions and act in the best way you can think of. In this way, you will feel that you are doing something productive to change the situation you are living in.
Also, do not stop looking for any opportunity that will help you discover yourself, remember the things that have helped you learn and improve your life, it will help you not to lose hope. Trust in yourself and your abilities, you are capable of getting ahead and turning your life around, as impossible as it may seem, you have done it before and you will do it again.
Finally, take care of yourself, listen to your body, fulfill your desires and meet your needs. It will keep you healthy and prepare you to face any situation.