Resilience is the ability of people to cope with life’s adversities and emerge stronger from these experiences. 

It is the fact of accepting life’s good and bad moments, trying to bring out its positive side, to learn and be stronger. This does not mean that we have to play down the negative moments, no, we have to give them the importance they deserve, but to draw a lesson from life, to come out stronger and to grow on a personal level after turning the page. 

Characteristics of a resilient person:

  • They’re people with a lot of confidence in themselves and their ability to cope. 
  • They have a social support network.
  • They’ve set themselves a purpose in life.
  • They firmly believe that they can influence what happens around them.
  • You know that you can learn from life’s experiences, both negative and positive.
  • Face life in the most positive, enthusiastic and energetic way possible.
  • They are curious people with an open mind to new experiences.
  • They have a very high level of positive emotions. 

What kinds of changes can help us be more resilient

Creating a positive change from the experience they have just lived helps them to be better off than before this event. These changes can be on a personal level (individually) or in relation to other people (interpersonal level) or on a philosophy of life level, as you face life.

Changes in oneself: they have more confidence in themselves and in how they are going to face future adversities, they manage to straighten out their life. 

Relationships with other people: a traumatic event can bring you together with other people who have gone through the same or similar event and with those who have supported you in the process. 

About life philosophy: when you live a difficult experience, which marks you, you change your way of seeing the world, the values you had and the appreciation you had of certain things. 

This does not mean that we do not live negative experiences, in fact, if we did not live them, this personal growth would not take place, it is about coexisting with the pain and learning from it. 

We are not going to grow in all aspects of our life, but we are going to improve certain areas of our life. Each experience will improve one or several aspects (even some that we thought had already improved), so little by little we will change the way we live and behave. 

How to develop resilience: 

Relating to people: in difficult moments, we should let ourselves be helped and supported, in this way we will strengthen the bond with family and friends, even with people we initially thought were not so important to us. Helping those who need it will also facilitate the creation of emotional bonds. and will improve our resilience little by little.

Not seeing what happens to us as an obstacle: we cannot prevent negative things from happening to us, but we can decide how we interpret them, how we react to them and how they affect us. We must be positive, thinking that everything will pass and that there is hope. 

We must do activities that will improve our mood: do things that will lift your spirits, whether it be playing sports, going for a walk, being with your friends or family, going to the cinema, reading… Do it often and you will see how well you feel. 

Make decisions: when something negative happens to you, you should look for solutions and act in the best way you can think of, this way you will feel that you are doing something productive to change the situation you are living in. 

Also, do not stop looking for any opportunity that will help you discover yourself, remember the things that have helped you learn and improve your life, it will help you not lose hope. 

Trust in yourself and your abilities, you are capable of moving forward and turning your life around, as impossible as it may seem, you have done it before and you will do it again. 

Finally, take care of yourself, listen to your body, fulfill your desires and cover your needs, it will keep you healthy and prepare you to face any situation.  

Thanks to WellWo, now you know what resilience is and how to put it into practice.